Frustrated

So, its been pretty disappointing reading all the negative stuff on CBC regarding international adoption and CAFAC. I am especially frustrated since the media is portraying this in such an ignorant light. I am also frustrated with the families who have gone to the CBC with their complaints. So far most of the complaints had to do with stuff that they would have learned during the educational component that CAFAC provides, a mandatory part of the adoption. I'd like to ask these people where they were during the sessions that dealt with the facts. Facts such as that Ethiopia has NO vital statistics, making it very difficult to keep track of the birth dates of these children. Also, the fact that Ethiopia is a third-world country. With third-world medical systems, sanitary conditions, and poverty. Even though, they do their best, the orphanages and foster homes are still in Africa, not Canada. The complaints seem so ignorant, so ridiculous in the light that all of these things were put before us, before we could even move forward with the adoption, CAFAC made sure we were aware of the facts!!!!
We have friends who have travelled to remote parts of Africa. There were a number of mothers who asked them to take their children to Canada for an opportunity for a better life. Our friends of course could not do this, but their hearts went out to these families. Families that are faced with poverty and desperation the majority of Canada cannot even fathom. Families that love their precious babies so much that they are willing to give them hope, hope that they themselves struggle so hard to attain.
We also have a friend who grew up in Liberia, in the chaos, destruction, and horror of civil war. His wife has been to visit his family, still there in refugee camps.
The mentality of these people is much different than ours. I think that the CBC,these families, and all the ignorant comment makers need to literally spend some time walking in some African shoes, or better yet, barefoot on the hot African pathways.
These disgruntled parents may have had big hopes and dreams for their adopted children. Maybe they forgot to research ways to promote attachment. Maybe they forgot that parenting kids who have been through a major crisis have greater needs and require a huge pouring out. Maybe it didn't turn out the way they planned. Instead of looking for someone to blame for these disappointments, maybe they should pour their energies into getting some relevant supports. Get involved in a post adoption support group. Share your struggles, insecurities, and fears, but don't blame the difficult transitional period on others.
I know that I need to pray for these families. That these parents would seek the truth, seek the best way to love and nurture these precious kids. Pray that these kids would find healing and acceptance in their families. That the Ethiopian program won't suffer. That in the end, these babies welfare will be in the forefront and that we will trust that God will work out all the details.